When was the last time you found yourself uncertain of the future?
If you’re like most people, uncertainty creeps up far too often.
It’s a horrible feeling isn’t it?
But it doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t need to live in a state of constant upheaval. Because one thing is for certain; as the old saying goes, the only constant is change. And identifying and addressing change is the only solution for overcoming a mysterious and depressing future.
Simply put, you cannot alter, prevent, or stop uncertainty from creeping into your life. But you can do something about it…
Comfort vs. Conflict
Understanding your scenario and why you feel a particular way is the first step towards a meaningfully better life. But it’s not a solution.
For instance, when was the last time you had an argument with a loved one? An argument that caused you to say a few mean things you instantly regretted, yet were completely true? But to make peace, you take those things back, pretending they never happened. It may have diffused the situation, however, it never solved the problem.
The same thing happens internally. You argue with your true self all the time.
Am I making the right career choices?
Should I be in this relationship when I know there is someone out there I’m truly meant to be with?
Can I climb out of debt with my current money choices?
Is my lifestyle affecting my health in negative ways?
The formula for most every life argument:
[current problem] – [current solution] = [uncertainty]
In other words, when we choose a current path to overcome a challenge, we are (oftentimes subconsciously) uncertain of our choice.
You see the complication with these internal arguments is we are an irrational species. We constantly lie to ourselves. We overlook reality. And we seek comfort over conflict.
But those conclusions to internal arguments, however minute or subconscious, leave us wondering if we are taking the easy way out by seeking comfort.
When given the choice, we’d choose to be comfortable in life by searching for a solution that causes the least pain. And conflict, whether external or internal, causes a ton of pain.
The difficulty with choosing comfort over conflict, though, is we never truly grow as a person. As painful as it is to admit, comfort is the easy way out.
What to do?
It’s easy for me to stand on a soap box and shout how comfort over conflict is causing uncertainty in our lives.
But the truth is, I’m not saying anything you don’t already know.
However, at some point in our lives, we chose to bury these notions.
As time went by, and the world continued to shit on our goals and dreams, it was easy to let comfort take the wheel.
So, what is the only true path for overcoming an uncertain future?
1.) Stop lying to yourself.
2.) Identify your comfort zones.
3.) And, however painful it may be, choose conflict.